I heard a definition of love this week that got me thinking. It goes something like this:
"Love is opening yourself up so someone can really hurt you and trusting him or her not to"
There are a few of things in this quote that struck me:
To truly love someone, you have to open your inner feelings, dreams and fears to that person. If you don't, then there are trust issues to start with because you don't trust your partner enough to open yourself.
And, when you do, you open yourself to enormous possible hurt and then you have to trust your partner even more not to use that knowledge to hurt you. You are giving your loved one an enormous power and if he or she does the same, you have a similar power.
One time to remember the "trusting him or her not to" part is when you are angry or hurt. Don't use this power you have to hurt your partner because they opened themselves to you. If you do, the trust flies out of the window and the may just take the love with it.
This power has magic only if you never use it.
