There is a world outside my head

I read this phase in a book called Ignore Everybody by Hugh McLeod and it made me realize that sometimes we all live so much in our own world that we are not aware of what is going on outside our own reality. Don't get me wrong, my reality is my world and I know it but that does not mean that there aren't other realities out there.

But how do I figure out what these other realities are when my own reality is coloring everything that I experience?

Watching or reading the news is one way but I have leaned that so called unbiased news is anything but! It is the reality of the reporter or the news channel and sometimes it can be set up too. Like a good friend of mine always reminds me, there is a story behind the story behind the story. Someone once said that history is actually His Story so true. History has been written by the victors and does not reflect the reason the losers went into the battle in the first place.

So how do I get outside my own head?

Firstly by NOT being ego-friendly. Your ego will always prevent you from getting out of your own head.

Next, listen and pay attention to what is said AND implied, try to find the story behind the story. In relationships, figure out what is meant more than what is said. If someone is mad at you, is it because they are having a bad day? Is it because something you have done is putting them in a bad light or that is what they perceive? Is it that the person does not want to approach the subject directly and is using anger to force something else into the open?

Not easy I know because it is so easy to slip back into your own head. You have to put yourself in the other person's shoes.

In the end after you have ventured out of your head you do get back into your own head because that is where your reality resides but at least your reality will be colored differently by the "out of body" experience you have had.